Forgiveness . . .

To forgive someone is hard. When they hurt you, break your heart, it's very hard. Sometimes you can't bring yourself to forgive them. So what if, a year or so later, they decide to apologize. Has it been long enough that you can now forgive them? Or should you still feel the hurt and refuse to give them anything?
When I first moved, I did my own thing. I was with people when I wanted, for how long I wanted, where I wanted. I didn't care. Then I met a guy. He was moving back to his home town. But we stayed in touch every single day. The "L" word was thrown around. But he was hundreds of miles away and I was still me, doing what I wanted. Word spread and he found out. He decided never to forgive me.
Not long afterward, I met a guy. This guy wasn't moving and we had a good thing going. I made it clear that it wasn't serious, but he still got anxious if he heard about something that I was doing. The very minute that I told him I was ready to commit, he turned around a told me he didn't want anything from me. It was heart breaking at the time. I told myself I would never forgive him.
Now, more than a year later from both experiences, I have tried contacting the first guy. He still will not say anything. He refuses to forgive me. To just be my friend. To clear the air. And all of a sudden, the second guy contacts me and apologizes. And I don't know what to do. Do I say, "It's ok. We can be friends." Or should I go the other route and not forgive. On the other hand, I know what it feels like to have no forgiveness when I have apologized numerous times. And it hurts. So am I the "better person" who can forgive and forget?